Have you ever thought about that? I do, all the time. The question should almost be, why do we care what they think. I struggle with this all the time. On second thought, I used to deal with this issue all the time. Used to...
Why are we afraid of disappointing others?
Have you ever thought about that? I do, all the time. The question should almost be, why do we care what they think. I struggle with this all the time. On second thought, I used to deal with this issue all the time.
I wanted to take a moment and talk with all my lovely readers as to why we care so much about what other people think. Do you know why you care so much? I used to care so much because I wanted approval from anyone I dealt with. I wanted to be the person that had their phone blow up with hundreds of texts from lots of people because it would have meant people wanted to talk to me, wanted to hang out with me.
Does that sound like your reason too?
We as humans are (I believe) designed to have a need to feel wanted. There is nothing wrong with that. What goes wrong is when our want starts to control our lives. You're probably over there laughing say, 'I control my life not others'. Well don't kid yourself. We are as much influenced by others actions as we are the actions we choose and our wants.
Seriously, though, we tend to obsess over why our friends didn't call us back, or why we didn't get that invite to the party or why one seems to keep losing their friends. It's confining and holds you down to constantly think like that. Trust me, I know!
I decided last year that I wasn't going to let anyone or me control my life like that anymore. I have lost friends and gained new ones. I have people actively seeking to "take me down" on a daily basis (what a waste of energy by the way). It's hard but not something one can't make the best of.
I started to simply care less. I refocused my energy on my passions and my dreams and working towards and creating the life I want to live everyday. I don't want a life full of "why didn't he, how come she, why me". It's not worth it. It really isn't. A good friend told me the other day that she finds closure on these tough situations by simply doing what she can and knowing that if the other person really wants to make things right or fix things (what have you) that they know where to find her.
I have also come to really respect and love the relationship I have with family, particularly my family. For me, family has always been there. We have fought but make up and hug each other later. For me family really is thicker than water.
All in all our want to not disappoint others stems from a need to feel wanted. It's our human nature. To help overcome these feelings I have found I need to do a couple things:
I don't want to be nailed down each day hoping I don't disappoint someone when I could be spending that energy make moves to my dreams and goals. I most certainly do not want you to be either. Remember my bullet points apply them as you can to your life. Let go of the burden of what other people think because in the end it is only your thoughts and moral compass (plus God in my opinion) that matters.
Author: Courtney Rasbach
Courtney loves God, nature, horses, homemaking, essential oils, herbs, Yoga, and Natural horsemanship. Learn more about the author in her Bio section.
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